December 5, 1928 ~ September 24, 2021
Dolores (Dee) Milan Breithaupt died on September 24, 2021. Born Dolores Phoebe Milan on December 5, 1928 in Middlesex, NJ, Dee was the fourth of five children born to Anne Taylor Milan and Louis Milan.
As a child, Dee lived with her family in Plainfield NJ, Whitehouse NJ and Princess Anne, MD. From an early age, Dee’s life has been filled with music, dancing and singing. She mastered the castanets having been taught by Paco Cancino (Rita Hayworth’s uncle). Dee’s close childhood neighbor, now famous jazz pianist Bill Evans, taught him to play the piano. Dee excelled at tap and ballet, eventually taking those talents to Broadway as a young teenage girl, telling a little lie about her age in order to get an audition. She has performed in the Broadway shows “Count Me In”, “Dream with Music” and “Early to Bed”. While working on Broadway, she attended Professional Children’s School in New York City.
In a newspaper article published when Dee was 17, she reportedly said her father didn’t like the idea of ââher being in show business. After several years of performing on Broadway, the family moved away from the big city to a farm on the Chesapeake in Princess Anne, Maryland. Dee graduated from Mary A. Burnham School in Northampton, Massachusetts and Western College for Women in Oxford, Ohio – majoring in English. She then established a dance school in Williamsport, Pennsylvania.
Dee worked for many years for American Express, first traveling the world and leading tours as a travel agent and then as regional director of corporate sales. During her travels, she met and later married the love of her life, Wendell Breithaupt. Dee retired from American Express in 1991.
Dee and Wendell shared a love for golf. They have traveled extensively and played golf on many famous courses. They retired to their Carmel Valley home where they spent many happy years playing golf, dancing, singing and enjoying each other’s company. As a team, they have won several golf tournaments as a couple. One of Dee’s proudest achievements in golf was a hole-in-one shot in a tournament at Carmel Valley Ranch. She won senior championships in New Jersey and California. She and Wendell are long-time members of Quail Lodge and Golf Club and Dee was a member of the Women’s Golf Association of Northern California.
Dee is survived by her husband Wendell T. Breithaupt of Carmel Valley, CA; his daughters Kim (Dave) Toot of Wellsville, NY; Megan Milan from Marco Island, Florida; Deborah (Bob) Smythe of Lawrenceville, NJ, as well as her brother Sandford (Carolyn) Milan of Whippany, NJ; four grandchildren, four great grandchildren and several nephews and a niece. Dee is predeceased by her parents and siblings, Louis, Janet and Robert.
Dee’s family would like to thank Hospice of the Central Coast and Ileini’s Care for the loving and compassionate care they provided.
Donations in Dee’s honor can be made to the Monterey County SPCA, PO Box 3058, Monterey, CA, 93942 or to the Monterey County Salvation Army, PO Box 1884, Monterey, CA 93942. He there will be a memorial service at a later date. Please visit www.thepaulmortuary.com to sign Dee’s guestbook and leave messages for her family.
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